Personal: Talking Baby Number Two

So far we’re only 8 days into the New Year and about 1/2 of my girlfriends told me they’re pregnant. lol! I am seriously so excited because having gone through it, I get to be their little pregnancy guide, and help them out as much as I can (minus the ones who are on baby number two, of course!) This weird thing happens to me when I hear a friend is pregnant – At first I am SO excited for them, and then I am like oh dang, good luck, knowing how hard this year has actually been (even thought it’s been amazing too, don’t get me wrong) and then I am like wow, I didn’t enjoy being pregnant at all, but I somehow instinctually crave it and suddenly have weird baby fever. I think it’s just a woman thing, you see a baby or see a pregnant belly and you sort of want it, even if you don’t really want it at all and know you can’t for the life of you handle it in your life at the moment.


So, all of that being said, yes we do want a baby number two, but it is definitely not in the 2018 cards. 1/4 of me has thought about it within this year, just because of this *desired* age gap between my babies that would be so nice for them – with Hudson being 14 months, there would be a nice 2.5 year gap between them which in my mind is so ideal because they could be close, but not too close in age. But the reality is, I am still figuring out this business of being a blogger, we’re constantly busy with work and juggling Hudson, and it just doesn’t feel right in our lives right now. Maybe that’s selfish, maybe it’s mature of us, maybe it’s just how I feel today and in six months I will be like YASSS GO TIME. Who knows?!?! But since I am sure so many of you mamas with an almost toddler may be in the same boat, and it’s the number one question I get asked by friends, family and all of you I figured I would speak candidly on the topic.


When we had Hudson, everything was so calculated – We had good insurance through my work, I had a 9-5 job + this blog, and  we had everything entirely planned out. The negative was that I was exhausted and still working probably 55 hour + weeks, but it was for this nice relaxation period where we both took off and bonded with Hudson. Baby number two will be different – not only will I have Hudson to chase after, but I am now in the freelance wild wild west. It will just happen in a totally different season of life, and the thought of it scares me. So when I wake up and don’t feel totally overwhelmed by having a 14 month old, working freelance, the never-ending list of home projects and all of the travel that’s already lining up for this year … that will be when we might change our minds! 🙂


How did you decide to go for two?


5 comments so far.
  • Lauren

    Glad to know I’m not the only one who feels this way. We have a 2 year old and just not ready to have another yet.

  • Mallory Wiese

    I really dislike pregnancy, so I kind of wanted to get number two out of the way. My second was born 9 days before my 1st turned 2. It wasn’t as hard as I thought it would be, but I only took work every so often (freelance graphic designer/photographer). The best part, they entertain each other all day at 3yrs and 5yrs. And I’ll have my third in May. This time I’m happy to have a 3.5 year age gap. My older two make their own breakfast and lunch, and we are trying out homeschooling that has taken out the “school run stress” in the morning. Whatever you decide will work just right for your family. There isn’t a standard “right” answer. Families have different dynamics and priorities.

  • It is not selfish… because if you don’t feel ok, it will be difficult to increase the family

  • My son turned 2 at the end of November and I just recently decided I don’t think I want a baby #2. It was always part of my plan and I have wanted another since my son was born. But I’m oddly at peace with this decision though I do feel a bit selfish about it, so I can relate to how you feel.

    I think that most of us don’t really know how/when/if for things like this, even if we think we do. And that’s okay. We need to do what works for us, what makes sense for our families.

    Like you said, I might change my mind in a couple of months. I do love my son bunches and he would be the best big brother. And if I do that’s fine, but for now I’m good. 🙂

  • Emily

    I feel all he feels you feel, mama! My little one is 13 months and as much as I want to give him a sibling close in age- the thought of it exhausts me! Also, I want to enjoy his toddlerhood as much as possible without being distracted by pregnancy/baby. I told my husband we can’t even begin to talk about it until Ryder’s 2nd birthday and at that point he has to promise me he’ll get a vasectomy right after I give birth!