Personal: Why I’m My Own Biggest Fan (And While I Love You, I Don’t Depend On You For Confidence)

The other day Matt and I were talking about instagram growth, and how it’s tied into a lot of bloggers self confidence. It feels great when you work hard, shoot great content, and then see the hard work pay off. But, sometimes you work hard, shoot great content, and for some reason your growth slows down, people don’t love your work, or you just plain feel uninspired. It’s been a really incredible + great month for me over here, and I am a bit on a high lately, and Matt mentioned that he hopes if I have a slower month I don’t feel depressed about it. It got my mind working, and I started to really think about the way I feel about myself VS my online accounts.


To be honest, as a blogger I’ve been called conceited, self-absorbed, vain, and many other words that I’m sure you could picture, but in this business I’ve learned NOT to depend on the love from you all (which is lovely, of course) and to rely solely on my own love for myself. I am a one man band over here – I am not part of a team, and most of my successes are very individual. When things are good, I am basically happily smiling to myself about how good they are. I don’t mind being called conceited or self-absorbed, because in order to survive, I have to champion myself – and that’s the biggest piece of advice I would give to ANY blogger, smaller or bigger.


When I was starting out, I had this sense that what I was doing was something I would be doing for a long time. I truly believed in myself. Somewhere in the middle of this whole blog thing, I had doubts. Doubts about leaving my job, doubts about whether it was an industry that was here to stay, and doubts about becoming close with other bloggers. But, I can now confidently say that I worked through my doubts and emerged with a stronger + clearer path. In order to stay happy, stay confident and stay true to yourself in this industry you have to LOVE and stand behind every choice you make, everything you do and you have to love yourself because of who you are inside & out, not based on the number of likes you’ve received on any given day or week.


So, I love you all for reading what I have to say and for sticking with me, but I wanted to just clear up that the love from internet friends does not make or break me. I will love myself no matter what – even if the entire thing blows over, and I am back at a desk pranking my desk neighbor. Don’t focus so much on the outside noise, but focus on your internal voice. It will make this whole thing a lot easier ๐Ÿ™‚


What do you think? Do you think we let our online numbers defineย our self confidence these days?


6 comments so far.
  • Jo Anna Young

    Awesome advice! I needed to read this today, so thank you for sharing! Keep doing you, boo! ๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿ’ฏ๐Ÿ’ƒ

  • I love this post! I definitely agree with your mindset. You shouldn’t have to depend on the support of social media and blog followers to determine how you feel about yourself. Thanks for sharing such an honest post.


  • agreed <3

  • that is sooooo fondamental!!!!

  • I absolutely love this! I try so hard not to get wrapped up in numbers. I blog because I’m passionate about it (not just for “followers”) and I try to always keep that at the top of my mind!

    xx Chelsea

  • Love this post! Completely agree with you about being called conceited and whatnot from blogging, but at the end of the day we do it for our own joy ๐Ÿ™‚

    -Georgia xx