Personal: 5 Things Behind The Instagram

Hi guys! After messaging a few of you in instagram, it seems like you enjoy some personal writing, and funny enough I LOVE TO WRITE. I journaled basically my entire life before the interwebs took over, and I am happy to share my little weird thoughts with you. I decided that every Wednesday, rain or shine, I will create a personal post for you and talk about anything and everything that comes to mind.

This week, I wanted to talk about something that I’ve had on my mind for a bit. I’ve seen tons of instagrammers shut down their feeds, and mention that they’ve been going through things on the side that they haven’t been so honest about, or how they were in a bad place in X or Y picture. It’s really hard to read between the squares, and a lot of us even mention that insta is “just a highlights reel” or that our lives aren’t perfect at all, but then we go back to posting regularly. Sometimes we take a breather, or our posts become a bit off until our mood passes, but you never really find out the full story.

I never want to be that person, and even if it’s hard, I want to share it all, even if it isn’t always 100% pretty. So, in the spirit of sharing, here’s 5 little nuances on my feed that I maybe never mentioned, and that you maybe never noticed!

Getting excited to ring in 2016! Even busting out the sequins a day early! 🎉🎉 #UOonyou

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1- I shot this alone in my room on a self timer. How awkward, right? We all do it sometimes.


The long and winding road ❤️

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2- In 2014 I went through a really weird + tough time. If you’ve followed me since then, you may have noticed that I dyed my hair red and stopped posting for a while. I never really addressed it too much, but it was a dark time for me (hence, dark hair!) I was working on my marriage, figuring out our life in NY and what I wanted out of life.  I think I resumed posting in May after I took some time to work out my stuff.


My favorite peachy blouse 

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3- I remember shooting this in the mall parking lot in Miami on the way to pick up pots with Matt’s mom. Isn’t it funny how when you see a photo of someone on instagram, you create this story in your head around it, but sometimes it’s just a quick snap of a person just being a person doing normal people things.


4- On this particular day, we wanted to shoot Fall leaves but we couldn’t freakin’ find any! You probably didn’t notice how sad this pile of leaves is, but there was actually no leaves to be found anywhere, and this was the best we could find! haha! #insatgramprobs


Love and @casper ❤️ Started our Sunday off fresh with a new mattress (and some kisses in between!)

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5- This is the first photo I shared on instagram where I knew I was pregnant! Looking back on it now, it’s funny to see how far we’ve come. Going to really miss all of the memories from this room.


Please let me know in the comments if you enjoyed this “behind the gram” post, and I can continue posting them on Wednesdays!



6 comments so far.
  • Ariel Scheer Stein

    Thank you for sharing this, Steffy! It is so refreshing to read the nuances behind some of these posts. I totally agree with you that it is hard to “read between the squares” and IG certainly does not tell the whole story. I appreciate your honesty and look forward to reading more of these kinds of posts 🙂

  • I really enjoyed this post! It’s so nice to get a behind the scenes story if what was really happening in the picture!


  • I love this type of post, Steffy! It’s cool to see the BTS of an Instagrammer and I appreciate your honesty. It’s natural for us to want to appear perfect, but I’ve been learning recently that it’s important, rather, to be authentic. It’s hard to do, but you inspire me to do it!

  • Allegra Liu

    Yes, really interesting! Would be a fun regular feature

  • Aw love this! Yes, please do more of these 🙂 It’s really refreshing to hear “behind the scenes” of a photo, especially on a platform that is geared towards a perfectly curated life.

  • Some Place Called Home

    I love your “Personal” posts, and I think it is very valuable to tell more about what lies behind Instagram. We like to see nice pictures and happy moments, but feeling blue is sometimes part of life, and it is interesting to see that to (maybe not litteraly, but at least in writing). You get closer to people that way 🙂

    Have a nice day !