In less than a month I turn 30. It feels almost fake saying it out loud, because of how quickly my twenties flew by. Entering my twenties I felt a lot of pressure to figure things all out. It felt like a decade of self discovery – Where do I want to work? Who do I want to be within the real-world? Who do I want to pick to be my partner?
As hard as I tried not to be on a timeline, the clock continued to tick. I passed the “age my mom had me at” and felt like I was behind. Or I would see a friend get engaged and wonder how old I would be when it would happen to me. It’s funny though, things seemed to happen at the timeline I invented for myself – I was married at 26, had a baby by 29 and suddenly I felt like maybe I was doing things “the right way” or the way society says that we should be doing them.
But the truth is, the pressures never ceased to exist, they just shifted with age. Now I feel pressure to “have the second baby” or to “Move to a bigger place” or to “Keep looking young.”
“Don’t you want them to be close in age?” people always ask.
“Don’t you want a house with a backyard, an apartment is small for a family!” people say.
There’s SO many things we think we’re supposed to be doing to fit the norm. We think that these things will make us happy, but the truth is the only thing that makes me happy is doing things my own special way, on my own timeline. I’m curious to hear if any of you have been having the same thoughts? SK-II released a study that showed women don’t talk about these issues and you can read more by searching #ChangeDestiny #SKii #inpartnershipwithskii – Here’s some stats that jumped out at me from it:
This survey was conducted online by Procter & Gamble in May 2017 among 4280 women and 3261 men ages 18 years of age and older in the following countries Japan (n=1006), Korea (n=1010), China (n=1006), Hong Kong (n= 301), Taiwan (n= 303), Thailand (n= 302), Malaysia (n=309), Indonesia (n= 304), United States (n= 1000) , United Kingdom (n= 1000) and Australia (n=1000).
How do you handle the pressure from others, and what steps do you take to stay true to yourself?
*Thanks to SK-II for sponsoring this post.